Q&A Winning Back Your Girl

Question: I want to use this opportunity to thank you guys for such an amazing job you did in your book, "Get In Her Mind Get In Her Bed." That book is like the encyclopedia of dating. I have been dating this girl since we were in high school. Even though I was senior to her in age and class at school, I was so off the hook when it came to dating. I could remember she was the who gve me my 1st kiss. I was so in love with her but a problem startd when I observed her flirting with my close friends. I thought we could work it out before I graduated but thing's didn't work out. The worst part is she has me on her watsapp social network, but she displays her new boyfriend pics on her profile to make me feel jealous. I stil love her but she is going off the hook to make me hate her. I need ur help guys. I want to win her back by telling her I am now an alpha male!

-Riel

Answer: I would tell you to go in the complete opposite direction when it comes to this particular girl. You were both inexperienced and young when it came to dating so it's natural for one or both people in a relationship to want to test the waters at some point. She's done so and is continuing to do so, but you seem stuck in the past. Listen, I get it, you're crazy about this chick and want to win her back, so you're going to do things that you think are going to show her how much you care about her, the first being, you won't date other people. That is the first mistake and I'll tell you why. A lot of guys think, yeah, I'll show her how much I care for her, by being faithful to her until the end. But really all that is telling her is that she has you on the hook. She can go out and play and have fun and she knows that she will always have you to come back to when she's done.

You don't need to be vindictive about it the same way she has been, by shoving your new girl friends in her face. You did mention that you still love this girl so you will want to leave the door open to return to a future relationship. However, the only possible way to a future with her, is to move on from her. Date other girls, if not for the fact you just need gain more experience with women in general. You never tell a girl you're an alpha male, you show her, by way of being desirable to other women. Word will get back to her,and gossip will travel. Pretty soon other girls will be asking her, "You used to date Gabriel? Damn how'd you let him go?"

When you do run into her, don't start begging her to get back together, that won't help your cause. Just be friendly and flirty, but drop hints that you've moved on and your dating prospects have never been better. The best revenge is just living a good life. When you've both gained more experience, you can try giving things another shot and it may work out the next time after you've both gotten everything out of your system. That choice will be up to you though. Your first love is always tough to get over, but you soon may find that your second or thrid loves are even more amazing.