The Alpha Male

I hear a girl ask Nick, "Hey what’s your friend’s name?" He replied, "Taylor." She continues, "Does he have a girlfriend?" At this point I turn around and say to the mystery woman, "Why don’t you ask his friend?" I ended up dating this girl for few months. I found out from her later that the reason she approached me was the way I walked in. We were in a group with about five other guys and she said we all walked in looking good and having a good time. I distinctly remember her saying, "You walked in like you owned the place." She obviously picked me out of the group, but we all looked like somebody worth getting to know. Based on our body language alone, we were interesting, and appeared to be an attractive fun group of guys.

Body language is king in the game of pick up and in everyday life. Remember only ten percent of what you say comes across in the message, the rest is body language. What you say is directly tied to your body language. If you are displaying confident body language, the dialog in your conversation will be coming out in a confident manner. You won’t be tripping over your words. The words will be seemingly meaningless. They will start to flow out rather than seem generic or rehearsed. You will care less about what you are saying and your conversations will become more fluid.

When I walk, I walk with purpose. I walk with an aire of confidence and a little cockiness. I walk like I am somebody. Some would say I walk around like I think I’m better than everyone else. When I walk into a club or bar, I walk in the same way. If I enter with girls, I am arm and arm with one of them, with the others close by. I walk tall with my head up, chest out, and I am smiling, perhaps even laughing. I am having more fun than anyone there. I walk in with a purpose, like I own the place. If I walk in with a group of guys, I walk in the same way. I walk tall with a confident gait, head up, chest out, and smiling. All of the things I am doing are putting off body language signals that say I am confident, I am interesting, I have something to offer, I am having fun, and I am fun to be around. I enter, and everyone in the bar wants to know me.

Let’s break some of this down. Going places with women, being seen with women, is a good thing. It gives the women observing you peer approval. Meaning that other women will think, “All those girls are with that guy he must be really cool.” The women you are with know you and like you, and are giving their "approval." So if I walk in with women it gives all the other women in the bar approval from my peers. I'll take it one step further by locking arms with them and laughing. Now not only are these girls with me, but they are with me and touching me. On top of that we are laughing and appear to be having an awesome time. So all the girls in the bar, that I will be gaming on later, are already thinking, “This guy must really be interesting, he has girls all over him, they are laughing, he is fun, he has something to offer, I want to meet him.” You portray all that just by walking in the door.

Now if it’s boys night out, I do the same thing but I want to out Alpha Male them. We have taught all of our friends this so we kind of all walk into the bar the same way. It’s kind of a joke now, but again, we all walk in confident, with our shoulders back, heads up, and chest out. We are all usually laughing and joking around, and we all have smiles on our faces. We are showing everyone in the bar that we are about having fun, we are the life of the party, come join in. Now I want to out Alpha Male my friends, but not by making them look stupid, I want to do subtle things that will make me stand out from the group. You always want to be the one that stands out. You want to be the guy that women notice and say to themselves, “There is something interesting about that guy and I’m going to find out what it is."

When most guys are starting out learning how to be an Alpha Male, they make the mistake of not telling their friends about these hidden signals. They fear that if they tell their friends what they know, then there will be too much competition. While this is true to some point, you will see better results by being in a dominant group than you would by being the lone Alpha Male. People hang out in groups. Within the groups there is a pack leader, or Alpha Male. When we go out to bars or clubs we go out in our groups, as does everyone else. The people at the bars and clubs are a big collection of many groups, each with their own pack leader. When we are at the bar not only do we compete against each of the other Alpha Males, but every dominate group as well. The dominate group, is the group women will focus their attention on the most. Within that group they will be looking for the pack leader. Therefore you must teach those that you go out with how to be the dominate group. My group is the one that is seen as the dominate pack. Everyone in the group works together to display confident body language, and all the looks will be heading our way. From here, all you need to do is place yourself as the Alpha Male in the group. When they sit I stand. I might place my hand on their shoulder when I talk to them, or give them a pat on the back when I tell a joke. Both are subtle signals of dominance over the other. We are all there to help each other out, not get in the way.

The first step in becoming an Alpha Male is to carry yourself in this confident manner. This is something you can practice all the time. You don't just flip a switch when you get to the bar and become a confident person. Girls will see right through you. If you want to be better with women you need to make a change in your lifestyle. Start carrying yourself in a confident manner all the time. Even if you are a shy person, if you act confident you will become confident. Have you ever heard the expression fake it till you make it? Same theory applies here. Carry yourself in a confident manner and you will become a confident person. If you exude confidence, you will be perceived as a much more interesting person. This will help you with your career, with your peers, family, everything, not just with girls. If you’re serious about getting better at interacting and picking up women, you need to make a concerted effort to become a more confident person. Women will see you in a whole new light.

The second step in becoming an Alpha Male is learning to claim your space. You want to be seen, the center of attention. So when you are looking for space to claim, move to the center of the room and begin marking your territory. Place your drink down, place a lighter down, place your jacket or coat down. You are sending out the signal, “If you want this space, you are going to have to take it from me!” The more space you take up, the bigger your territory. The more territory you have claimed, the more of an Alpha Male you will be.

Where ever you go, immediately head for the center. Sitting on a couch, walking into the bar, entering a room, it doesn’t matter. Make a direct line with no hesitation. From the moment you walk into a room, all eyes will be on you if you in with a confident manner. Walk tall, shoulders back, chest out, relaxed, with your head up and smiling. This is what we mean when we tell you to walk in a confident manner. You may not notice people looking at you, but they will definitely notice you. The women will think you are interesting and want to get to know you. The guys will all be jealous because they know the attention is on you, and the women find you interesting, not them. The next time you are at the bar, take a moment to watch the girls currently not talking to any other guy. What are they doing? They are watching the door to see who will come in next, to see if the next guy that enters is the one for them. Take your time to get where you are going, there is no rush, let the women see everything you have to offer. Confident body language will carry you. If you have poor body language but have a killer opener and you approach a girl, whether she finds you attractive or not, she will shortly become uninterested. If you have great body language it doesn’t matter what you say, she will be interested. Now obviously you do not want to open her and be tripping over your words, but if you just say the first genuine thing that pops in your mind and have random conversation, your confidence will carry you.

So you have walked into the bar in a confident manner displaying your Alpha Male body language. You have made a direct line for the center of the room, claiming your territory. Now it is time to expand on your space. Start making your rounds, talk to you friends, order a beer. At each stop you make, continue displaying the confident body language. You always want to be on the prowl, looking for extended eye contact from a cute female. This is not a linear process you need to follow step by step. It is a fluid dynamic. You must be ready to pounce at every given opportunity. As you are talking with your friends look around. You may notice a girl that you did not see when you first walked in. She may not have seen you make your entrance, or claim your territory. Therefore, it is important to continuously display these qualities.

If I am standing in a group with my friends, I like to stand with my feet roughly shoulder length apart. You want to take up room to portray dominance in your group. Stand up tall with your shoulders back, and chest out, but in a relaxed fashion. Do not put your hands in your pockets. That is a sign of nervousness. Remember, you are going for confident. Another thing I see people do is hold their beer in front of their chest. Make sure you do not do this. It makes you look small and closed off to conversation; you are putting up a barrier. You want to be taking up a reasonable amount of space and putting out signals that say, “I’m open and inviting.” Point your toes out slightly as opposed to pigeon toed. This may seem like something small with little meaning but it is not. Women notice these things. Something else I like to do that puts out an aire of confidence, is I sort of thrust my hips forward. Not pushed way out looking like a retard but ever so slightly. I lock my thumbs in my belt or pants pockets depending on what I’m wearing and let my hands hang down my legs. I have my fingertips pointed slightly at my cock. This is a confident pose that also appeals to a woman's sexual subconscious.

When you are standing at the bar, waiting for a beer, you want to be scanning the room for potential targets, while at the same time trying to get the bartenders attention. Use the bartender as a guide to how well you are projecting confident body language. They will notice you and serve you well before anyone else. The women around the bar will notice this, so will all the other guys, further strengthening the idea that you are the Alpha Male. Continue to stand tall, make eye contact, and take up space. The bar area is always crowded with people trying to get drinks, it is a true test of your abilities.

Being Alpha Male is about portraying a certain appearance. You don’t have to be the greatest looking guy, the biggest guy, in perfect shape, or even the funniest. It all comes back to your appearance and the message your body language sends out. You want to send out a message of sexuality. You want to scream center of attention, so when women see you they think, “Wow! What is it about this guy that is exciting me? I don’t know what it is but there is something and I want to find out what it is that is so special about this guy.” The ultimate goal is to be able to send out a message of sexuality that makes other guys jealous and arouses a woman’s excitement.

You have to learn to look, think, and act like an Alpha Male. You need to move around and have the body language that screams, “I’m big, I’m bad, you don’t want to mess with me!” Becoming the Alpha Male can be broken down into three categories, size, strength, and attitude.

Becoming Alpha Male: Size

One way to show dominance is by being bigger than everybody. We are raised to believe that bigger is better. Large men appear more powerful and are rated more attractive than smaller men. That doesn't mean you have to be a muscle bound, cock diesel, ape. You just need to learn how to appear large in your own frame. If you are a big guy, learn to move and stand in a way that is large in stature, not fat. If you are a small guy use certain techniques to appear larger.

Standing Tall
Tall men appear more dominant, but why is this? Think about a business meeting, everyone is sitting at the table, with the boss at the head of the table. When the boss talks, he is the only one standing signaling to everyone that he is in charge. When a police officer walks up to your car, you are sitting there waiting for them to walk up to your window. When he gets there he is standing over you. Those are all situations where the authority figure is displaying dominance. Now think of when you eat out at a restaurant, the waiter will bend down, or sit down next to you while taking your order so that they are at eye level with you. They don’t want to be dominate because they want the customer to feel comfortable so they receive better tips. A waiter will portray inferiority.

How tall you appear, has little to do with how tall you actually are. Obviously it is very hard to hide someone who is 6’ 4”, but just because you are average height, or smaller doesn't mean you cannot apply this principle. When you are out with your friends and they are sitting, stand up. You are the one people see, you are the Alpha Male of the group. Women want to know what makes you so dominant, and why you are better than the rest of your friends. You should never slouch, but if you are a short person it is extremely important to stand tall. Get the most out of what you have. If you are a larger guy, slouching will make you appear lazy and sloppy.

Chest Out
Alpha Males thrust their chest out to display their strong pectorals. Men do this both to women, “Look at me I’m strong and will protect you!” And other men, “I’m strong so you’d better not get in my way!” You can exaggerate this move by turning your body at an angle, showing off your chest profile. Women also do this. They accentuate their chest to attract you. Again this isn’t you having to put in hours at the gym to show off your amazing pecs. It’s standing in a way that taps into the subconscious of women. It doesn’t matter how big your chest is, but rather that you are standing tall in a way that says you are strong and have the ability to protect her.

Shoulders Back
Pulling the shoulders back sticks the chest out. Dropping the shoulders is a sign of laziness and poor posture. Poor posture makes you look weak and pathetic. Pulling the shoulders back also helps the shorter man appear to be taller. It helps the portly man appear to be confident and comfortable in his skin.

Elbows
The elbows can be used to make us appear larger than we really are. Just like a male bird will ruffle up his feathers to appear larger, placing your hands on your hips and sticking your elbows out will make you look bigger, and expands the chest; another power display.

Shoulder Width Stance
Keeping your feet at a shoulder width stance allows you to take up more space, making you appear larger. It leaves the crotch open for attack. This is a signal that says you are open and approachable, versus closed off. By doing so it tells the world that you are not afraid of any threats. Closing the legs protects the crotch from attack, showing fear.

Toes Out
Pointing your toes outwards tells the room that you are open for communication. Again, you are approachable. Pointing the toes in, signals that you are closed off and feel intimidated by your surroundings. You never want to appear to be closed off or to have personal barriers.

Becoming Alpha Male: Strength

Studies have shown that a woman’s favorite male body part is broken down into three groups, legs, butts, and the combination of the chest and arms. Surprisingly the male butt is top choice with forty percent. Overall, women are looking for an athletic body shape. Mix it with strong arms and a tight butt, you can’t go wrong. Male bodies were built to hunt, chase food, wrestle animals, and kill any potential threat. Even today women are still attracted to a man who looks like he can provide these basic needs. We’re not saying you need to be huge but you should be in shape. If you are not in shape you need to start doing some kind of activity. For skinny guys, start doing some sort of weight training. Even if it is minor you will see major results. If you are a round guy, start doing some kind of running or walking. Again, even if it’s only two times a week for ten to twenty minutes it will help. Do what you can.

Broad Shoulders
Broad Shoulders taper down to a narrow waist, creating a V-Taper. This creates the most athletic look. Men who appear to be physically fit are rated more at tractive by women. Don’t stress out if this does not describe you. What we are talking about is using what you yourself have, and making the most of it; putting yourself in the most attractive position possible.

Muscular Arms
Muscular arms show women that he is strong and able to carry their kill over long distances. It also gives them something to hold on to when walking around the bar. Big, not huge, arms make a woman feel safe. If you have big arms, wear something to show them off. If you have bean pole arms, don’t wear large baggy shirts. This will make your arms appear even smaller. A tighter fitting shirt will actually make small arms look bigger. You could also opt for a long sleeve button down.

Tight Butt
A nice butt is a favorite of women everywhere. You ask any woman at a football game what her favorite part of the game was and ninety percent will say the uniforms. The reason women find it so attractive is because a tight, muscular rear is needed to make the thrusting motion in sex. A strong thrusting motion will provide greater success of sperm transfer. Wear pants that are flattering to your particular body type.

Muscular Legs
Muscular legs are symbols of masculine power and endurance. They allowed our ancestors to run quickly over long distances to chase and hunt game. that swagger. It’s prominent in our walk, the look in our eye, the thunder in our voice. It’s the thing that women can’t quite put their finger on when they are asking themselves, “Why am I so attracted to this guy?” If you have the right attitude, you will have the right confidence.

Becoming Alpha Male: Attitude

The attitude of the Alpha Male is what gives us that swagger. It’s prominent in our walk, the look in our eye, the thunder in our voice. It’s the thing that women can’t quite put their finger on when they are asking themselves, “Why am I so attracted to this guy?” If you have the right attitude, you will have the right confidence.

Thousand Yard Stare
Alpha Male’s hunt with their eyes. They use them to look for their prey, and ward off all threats. The eyes can be used to attract the girl across the room or stare down any would be competition. As you scan across the room for potential targets, move you eyes slowly looking to make eye contact with the target. Eye contact is very important in the body language game. It is one of the things that allows you to display confidence. Without confidence, women will see right through you no matter how well you present yourself. When you make eye contact, hold it for an extra second, doing so develops sexual chemistry. Throw in a smile to show her you are sincere but it also is seen as a sign of confidence. We are not saying to stare at every cute girl you see until she looks in your direction, but as you are looking around, catch her eye and hold contact, rather than quickly looking away. If you are shy, chances are you have very poor eye contact. Start practicing with everyone you come in contact with, and look them in the eye when talking with them.

The eyes can be a very powerful weapon around other males as well. When you see a potential threat, or some other guy is trying to move in on your girl, squint your eyes a bit, and stare directly at his forehead. Squinting the eyes allows you to focus in on the threat and lowers the eyebrows resulting in a menacing look. We are all taught to look someone in the eyes when talking to them. It is considered a sign of respect. Looking at someone, then looking down is a sign of submission, another thing that as an Alpha Male we do not do. By staring at their forehead, you are saying, “I don’t respect you, I am more powerful than you, this is my territory!” For the person on the other end of the look, it can be very intimidating.

Chin Up
Keeping the chin up keeps the eyes from looking down. Looking down is a sign of submission. Holding your chin high allows your facial profile to be seen more easily by women. The Alpha Male doesn’t hide what he has, he proudly displays what he has got. By sticking out your chin you are making yourself vulnerable to attack while at the same time signaling all comers, “Take your best shot, you can’t knock me out!” Holding you head high also helps you to stand tall and keep your shoulders back.

Shaking Hands
A simple handshake determines who is dominant. When reaching out for a handshake, you can extend your hand one of three ways. You can extend the hand with the palm up, showing submission. You can extend with the hand straight up and down, displaying that you consider the other person your equal, or you can you show your dominance by extending your hand with the palm facing down. If another male tries to show his dominance when shaking your hand, you can counteract this by stepping forward with your left foot when reaching for his hand. This will cause him to pull his hand back to make room for your advance, turning his palm vertically. This will bring you to a handshake of mutual respect. But we are the Alpha male, we want to show dominance. Place your left hand, palm down, on top of the handshake, or take your left hand and grab their elbow. Both are displays of dominance over the other.

Adjusting the Crotch
A man will adjust his crotch when his junk is uncomfortable. This is usually done without much thought. However, to do this openly is both a display of power and a sexual display, “My dick is bigger then yours!” or, “Ladies! Check out my cock!” It sounds funny and stupid, but done subtly can be powerful on a woman’s subconscious.

Hands at Your Sides
Keep your hands down at your sides at all times with your palms facing out. Doing so shows a signal of openness, you are inviting a target to come talk to you. What does this pose remind you of? Jesus. Ninety percent of all images have Jesus standing with open arms, palms exposed. This invites people in. Folding your arms across your chest shows that you are closed. Guys who hold their hands do so as a comforting act, showing they are uncomfortable, or hold their hands in front of their crotch showing fear. In the bars a lot of guys will hold their drinks up at chest level. Even this move creates a barrier. Set your drink down, show the world that you are comfortable in your surroundings. Remember, open and approachable.

Cowboy
The most sexually enticing pose an Alpha Male can make is the "cowboy." This is done while standing, with your legs shoulder width apart, toes pointing out, all the things we have been talking about. Place your hands on your hips, with your thumbs tucked into your belt or pants pocket with your fingers pointing in the direction of your crotch. It resembles the pose of a gun slinger from the old west getting ready for a quick draw. Sticking your hands on your hips places the elbows out, making you appear bigger. The hands on the hips draw attention to your crotch, signaling your sexual power. Standing with your legs shoulder width apart, toes pointed out, is saying that you are open for communication.

After Sex
After having sex with a woman, most men want to roll over and fall asleep, however this little tip can help make you a sex god in the eyes of women. After the deed is done, women want to talk, and let out their emotions, while for guys, we just want to fall asleep. Prop yourself up on your side with your head on your hand, looking at the girl. This will make you appear that you are interested in what she has to say, but allowing you to close your eyes and get that much needed rest. Just because you don’t care what she has to say, doesn’t mean it has to look that way.

You know who gets the most pussy in the animal kingdom, the Alpha Male. Why, because he goes around chasing the female animals and if any male gets in his way while he is trying to hump he kicks their ass. He displays dominant body language scaring off the other males, and at the same time attracts the females. He doesn’t let the other males take away the females he wants, he dominates. As you gain confidence with women and learn the pick up signals, you too will become the Alpha Male. The Alpha Male is not always the biggest, or the best looking. He is the smartest. The Alpha Male uses the tools he has to his advantage. He walks around with confidence because he is confident in himself and his abilities. Alpha Males don’t make excuses, they take what they have and make the most of every situation.