Anchoring

Taylor and I were with a couple of guy friends of ours and a couple of girls we had met the week before. We had rented a cabin for the weekend and invited these girls to come up for a night of drinking, games, and maybe some fun. We were all sitting outside on the back patio talking and for some reason the conversation turned to sex. The girls we were with were pulling out all the stops, telling very detailed stories of their past experiences. Naturally, like I always do, I picked the one I was most attracted to and went to work. She was telling some of her sex stories, so I start asking her questions that would allow her to elaborate, "What’s the craziest place you have ever had sex, what was your favorite experience, most public place you've had sex in, what is your favorite position?" Now that she was comfortable talking about sex with me I say to her, "Okay tell me your best sex story, I mean the best sexual experience you have ever had." She starts telling me, but she doesn't want everyone else to hear so she begins whispering everything in my ear. Amongnst other things, she tells me that her ex used to give her back rubs all the time, and that always got her super horny and made her wet. She finishes telling me about her best sexual experience ever, and I leaned in and whispered in her ear, "That’s really sexy." Later that night we found ourselves alone and I was giving her a back rub. I leaned down over her shoulder and whispered in her ear, "You're really sexy." She rolled over, and as I found myself straddling her, we began kissing. I was in.

Another technique we like to use to create sexual chemistry is called anchoring. Anchoring is a lot like conditioning. You may have heard about this guy named Pavlov. Pavlov noticed that his dog salivated whenever he brought out the dog's food. The salivating was an involuntary response to the dog seeing his food, the stimulus. Pavlov started ringing a bell every time he fed his dog. Eventually the dog would salivate when he heard the bell even when there was no food. I like to think of this process of anchoring as leading the girl to a desired state of mind that will be beneficial for me.

What I did the night of my story, was put that girl in the same state of mind she was in as when she had the best sexual experience of her life and took advantage of it. I did that by placing what is called an anchor on her. Anchors are used to put someone in a desired state of mind, and in this particular case, thinking about sex, pleasure, lust, all of the above. Then at a later time, when we were alone, I used the anchor I created earlier to put her back into the same state of mind she was in when I placed the anchor, thinking about the best sexual experience of her life.

To place an anchor, the first thing you need to do is get your target in the desired state of mind. Whether you want her to feel happy, feel sad, or you want her aroused enough to start ripping your clothes off, you first need to evoke these kinds of "strong feelings" in her in order to place an effective anchor. The more intense the feeling is, the more effective the anchor will be. There are two ways in which you can do this. The first way is to wait until your target is in the desired state of mind on her own accord and then drop the anchor. An example of this would be:

The girl you are talking to just got a promotion at work and is out celebrating. She tells you about this and is instantly in a state of extreme happiness.

Another example would be:

A girl you are dating just got in a huge fight with her best friend. She is telling you about it and starts to cry. She is in a very sad state of mind.

An anchor placed in either one of these situations would be extremely effective at recalling whatever feeling she is current experiencing at a later time of your choosing.

The second way to place your tragert in the desired state of mind is to deliberately put her in that mindset. In other words, you need to evoke the desired feelings in your target through your actions and then place the anchor. An example of this would be:

You ask the girl you are talking to, to tell you about a time she was really happy. You continue to ask her questions about that time so that she is taken back to it. The more vividly she remembers this experience, the happier she will become in the present. Now that you have achieved the desired state of mind, you place the anchor.

Do you see the difference between the two? In one way she is already in the desired state of mind, and in the other you strategically place her in the desired state of mind. Now that she is in the desired state of mind the anchor can be placed. To place an anchor you do one of multiple things. You can make a sharp clapping sound, whistle, put your hand on her shoulder, snap loudly, whisper in her ear, say a certain word or phrase, squeeze a finger or a wrist, anything really can be an anchor. The key to an effective anchor is that you do something that is out of the ordinary from a day to day basis. Out of the ordinary enough that whatever you choose to do, wouldn't happen very often during a normal interaction between the two of you. The concept behind this is that by setting the anchor, while she is in the desired state of mind, you can evoke these same feelings at a later time by doing the same action you did when you initially set the anchor. Here is an example:

You are talking to the girl from ealier, the one who got a promotion at work that day and is out celebrating. When she is telling you about her promotion you start to see her face light up. You ask her a few questions about the new job just to make sure she is in the heightened state of mind. Now that you can see she is extremely happy you reach around and tap her just above her elbow and say, “Jumanji.” I know that sounds goofy but bare with me. The tap on the elbow and the word jumanji is what you used as your anchor. The tap above the elbow seems like a congratulatory touch but in reality it is the anchor. The word jumanji is goofy and she may look at you like you are crazy but you can play that off. Just say something like, "Yeah you know, like woooo, hooray for you, jumanji." At a later time if you want her to be happy or in the same mood she is in right now, tap her above the elbow and say, “Jumanji,” or you might be able to just say, “Jumanji.” This is how setting an anchor works.

In this example we used two anchors, the touch and the spoken word, but setting two anchors is not necessary. One anchor will usually suffice. When choosing an anchor you want something that is somewhat original. By original I mean something that is not common to everyday life. When you said jumanji this is a word that you would not hear in everyday conversation and it would be very effective. If you choose the word, say congrats as your anchor, that is something she will hear often and the effect of the anchor will be very weak or not be able to be set at all. The tap of the elbow may not be very effective by itself, but when you combine two smaller anchors these two work together in tandem to make a stronger connection.

Let’s go back and talk about at my own personal experience. While we were in the group setting we were all talking about sex. I then broke off into a private conversation with the girl I was attracted to and started asking her specific questions about her best sexual experience so that I could take her back to that time and place in her mind. I am putting her in a state of mind that was extremely pleasurable to her. I continued to ask her specific questions about that experience to get her to the highest pleasurable state possible. Then I placed the anchor. If you remember, I leaned in and whispered in her ear, "That's really sexy." I not only used the word "sexy", but I also whispered it to her when I said it, thus creating two anchors, the word and the whisper. I chose that particular anchor more out of convenience because she began it by whispering to me when telling me her story. It was natural to whisper back to her. Whispering was an effective anchor for two reasons; one, the sound or tone of a whisper. Two, the feel of my breath on her ear when I whispered.

By getting her to tell me her story, I also picked up a valuable piece of information I may not have known otherwise, back rubs made her horny. While I didn't place this anchor myself, I could definitely benefit from that little piece of information. I knew that by giving her a back rub she would feel just as she did when her ex used to do it, "horny and wet," only she would be having these same feelings for me. There is no logical reason to get upset or jealous when a girl you are attracted brings up previous sexual encounters or past boyfriends. Getting jealous is a turn off for anyone, especially incidents that occurred before you may have even met. Besides this is valuable information and to not pursue any freely given knowledge leading you to know someone's turn ons and disklikes would be foolish of you.

Now that I had placed my anchor it was only a matter of breaking away with the girl from the rest of the group. Making a clean break from the group is really pretty easy. Just get up and tell her, "Hey come with me." You don't need any reason in particular for her to come along with you, maybe you want to get another drink, maybe you tell her you have something to show her (and actually mean it), whatever the case may be. If she's interested in you she will come along. In my case I just wanted to get her away and there was a short walking trail nearby. We went on the trail and since it was dark out, she grabbed onto my arm for balance and safety. If you are under the impression that Taylor and I are always pulling off these planned, well though out, intricate sexual encounters, you would be mistaken. I actually ended up going through some brush ahead of the girl and a branch came back and hit her in the face. She laughed it off but I felt like an ass and I could tell her eyes were watering just a little bit. Remember how there is no perfect Hollywood moment? I reached out my hand touching her face to comfort her, pulled her in closer and kissed her. She asked me why I did that and my only reply was that I wanted to, "Make her feel better." She laughed at me for my corny line and he headed back to the cabin and my designated room. Now that we were alone we sat down on the bed and kissed a little more. I turned her around and started to give her a back rub. After a few more minutes I whispered into her ear how just sexy she looked to trigger the desired state of mind she was in earlier. This really got her going and we began kissing and our clothes were off a few minutes after that. I had placed her in the same state of mind she was in when she had the best sex of her life, only in this situation I was the one placed right next to her. Whether or not I actually gave her the best sex ever is a question only she can answer, however when we were done and came back out of the room, Taylor had a huge shit eaten grin and her friends were all giving her shit for how loud she was moaning.

Dancing is another situation where I like to set an anchor being that dancing is a very sexual experience in itself. Dancing is basically simulating sex while standing. You are close to each other, she is grinding on you, you are grinding on her. She is in a sexual, horny, heightened state of arousal. So put an anchor on her. Do something to her that will later put her back into that sexual, horny, aroused state of mind she was in while dancing with you. A good anchor to do while she is dancing with her back to you, run your hand down her arm, take one of her finger tips between your thumb and index finger and give her a slight squeeze. I like to use their pinky finger. Instead of her finger you could also lightly grab her wrist and squeeze that instead. At the same time, get really close to her and exhale on her neck behind her ear. I choose to use the finger tip because there are many nerve endings in the finger tip and this helps to create not only a higher state of arousal, but a better anchor as well. The pinky/wrist squeeze is one anchor while exhaling sensually on her neck is another that also helps to increase her arousal. Remember, the higher the state of arousal she is in when the anchor is set, the greater the effect. Later that night while sitting back down at the table or standing next to her, reapply the two anchors. Take her finger tip between two of your fingers and give a gentle squeeze. She will be taken back to the same sexually aroused mental state she had while dancing. On the car ride home or when back at the house waiting for something to happen, take her wrist in your hand as you did on the dance floor. You will be in her bed in no time.

Keep these things in mind when setting anchors. The more heightened or aroused she is in respect to the desired state of mind, the more effective the anchor will be, and the stronger that state will be when called upon at a later time. The more original the anchor you chose the stronger the desired state of mind will be. If you learn to use them effectively anchors can be a very powerful tool in pick up, but like every else we have taught you, they can also be used everyday life. Anchors don't always need to be sexual. Sometimes we just want to make those closest to us happy. When those closest to us are in a happy state, place an anchor such as squeezing their shoulder. When you see them again and they look a little down or sad, pull out the anchor you set and use it to pick them up a little.

The Sexual Touch: Bedroom Anchors

If you have been practicing our advice over the last twelve and a half chapters it is only a matter of time before our techniques lead you into the bedroom. The one thing that will separate a great man, from any other man, is what he can do in bed. It doesn’t matter if you’re a smooth talker, have six pack abs, or loads of money to throw around. If you can’t lay the pipe, she is not coming around for a second go around. That’s fine if you’re into one night stands, but word will eventually spread, and wouldn’t you rather be known as a sex god, then a sex dud?

Earlier in the chapter we talked about the application of anchors. Now we’re going to focus on dropping sexual anchors. As we already know we can intentionally drop anchors at the height of stimulation, through any of the five senses. By using this in the bedroom, we can make a woman feel things no man will ever be able to top.

The secret to great sex is multiple orgasms. No, not by having a marathon session and having her cum two or three times in a night, I’m talking about multiple orgasms all at once. Impossible? It's not really as hard as you think, all it takes is carefully dropped anchors whenever she begins to orgasm. The first anchor we can drop is the touch anchor. You need to find a place on her body that is easy to get to, yet won’t be touched in everyday situations. I prefer the right trapezoid muscle, between her shoulder and her neck. It is easy enough to grab in any position during sex, yet rarely touched any other time, except maybe during a back rub, which wouldn't be all that bad of a position to find yourself in. As you bring her to a climax, reach out and give her a short 1 to 2 second squeeze. She is so busy enjoying her orgasm that she won’t notice you squeezing her. Hell she probably likes you being a little rough anyway. Now the anchor is set and subconsciously she has associated the squeezing of her right trap, with an orgasm. Do this every time you make her cum to strengthen the connection of the anchor.

The second anchor we can drop is through sound. You know the safety word everyone jokes about with a dominatrix; well it’s the same principle here. As she is cuming whisper in her ear, or shout out loud, a word or phrase that you will only use during sex and at the peak of her orgasm. What you say really doesn’t matter, though I know it will feel strange to shout out uncommon words. To get around that come up with something like a naughty nickname that was made only for the bedroom. This does two things for you; one she will have already associated that name with sex, and two it will make you more comfortable using that name. A lot of women like fantasy and want to feel sexy. Give her one of your favorite stripper names and she will happily play the role.

The third anchor you can set is through sight. At any point during your sexual encounter you can make any number of different faces. I’m not going to tell you you need to go practice in front of a mirror your special “O Face,” which you only bring out when orgasming, but you get the idea. Practice the look on some friends first, because the wrong “O Face” can leave bad memories. Or if that idea sounds too ridiculous, do what I do and keep to the eyes. I make sure that as she is cuming I look directly into her eyes. Most times a woman won’t have her eyes open during the entire orgasm, but she will peek through at times and catch a glimpse of you staring deep into eyes. Once she does that, this anchor is set.

Now you have set three separate and distinct anchors all associated with sex. Use each anchor at every opportunity. We’ll do the math. Every time you have sex with her she will be experiencing the orgasm she would reach on her own, the orgasm from the squeezing of her trap, the orgasm from saying her stripper nickname, and her orgasm from looking into your eyes. Four orgasms simultaneously, or one super orgasm! The more you use the anchors, the stronger the connection of each anchor and the feeling of the orgasm gets compounded from the last. We are dealing with four orgasms multiplied by the strength of each anchor which can be a hundred times more powerful than one orgasm alone. You will have ruined her for all other men.

Anchors are also helpful when it is taking too long for her to reach orgasm. By using the anchors you can help speed up the process. Also, if you’re feeling horny, dropping any one of the three anchors will help to get her in the mood. Don’t be surprised if she goes from zero to one hundred in seconds, ripping your clothes off to get at you. A perfect example would be to start giving her a back massage, squeeze her trap, and whisper in her ear, “Ecstasy you do me nasty!” Count the seconds before her panties are off and she is tearing at your pants to get them off. If you really want a good time, drop one of these anchors on her in public and watch her panties get wet.