First Dates

What to keep in mind on a first date with someone is that you are still in the initial stage where building sexual chemistry is key. That being said, you need to plan an activity where you can talk and get to know each other, but at the same time be flirtatious and have fun. A lot of times the goto first date is a dinner and a movie. I don’t know why anyone would choose to do that as a first date. Sure its normal, it’s safe and it’s easy, but come on, be creative you dumb shit. We already know when approaching a woman you need to be original. You need to stand out in her mind. You need to be different than the other ten guys that have hit on her before you came by. So why would you take her on a first date that she has probably been on several times before. No one in their right mind should ever chose to do dinner and a movie as a first date. There is nothing wrong with dinner and a movie, if you’re past the initial stage of building sexual chemistry. If you already know it’s in the bag and she will be sleeping over, then yes, by all means take her where ever you please, but not on a first date.

Better First Date Ideas

Chuck E. Cheese's or Dave and Busters
Do your research and make sure that they serve alcohol, some Chuck E.’s don't. You may be laughing but this is an excellent choice. Unless your particular target has dated me, there is a very good chance she has never been to Chuck E. Cheese's on a date. It is a place where you can let go, and have a great time. I say one that serves alcohol because you should leave yourself that option. A beer, or ten, will allow her to take the edge off, and the same goes for you. It reminds her of her childhood and lets her act in a playful manner. When she’s feeling playful she will be touching you, creating that chemistry. Add a little competition with skeeball or some hoops and her hands will be all over you.

Cooking Class or Seminar
I’m not sure if this is the exact name for it but something along the lines where you are taught how to cook a meal together. Again, you can let loose and have a good time. It is a place where there are no restrictions on conversation. You don't have to worry about entertaining her or planning anything because the activities of the evening are planned for you. All you have to do is provide good flirtatious conversation. You get to eat, and if the date is going well you get to feed her. (Taylor and I are divided on feeding your date, he think's it is intimate, I think it verges on being too creepy).

Fair or Carnival
If you live in a small town this is great. It may sound lame but if she is from an area that has these things, then she grew up doing this and will like it. Just like the other options, it’s a place you can let go and have fun. There are many different things you can do, go on rides, play games, get your pictures taken. It’s a great time for the both of you and again the activities are mostly planned out for you so you only need to focus on providing good conversation.

Museum or Art Gallery
If you know that one of her interests is art or literature, take her to a museum or art gallery. You can spend hours at a place like this. She will love it. You may not know shit about art, and don't pretend you do, but that’s a plus. It will allow her to run her mouth about it for hours, teaching and telling you things you never cared to learn. The main thing is she will enjoy it. Plus it doesn't cost much and you have a lot of time to talk and build chemistry.

The Zoo
The zoo is awesome. You get to act like kids. Again, there are no restrictions. I'll bet the last ten guys she dated didn't take her to the zoo. Good conversation, ice cream, cotton candy, and lions. You can't go wrong with big ass cats.

Park or Beach
You will need to do a little planning, but this can potentially be a really cheap and fun date. If you go to the park take her an hour before sunset. Take something like a football or Frisbee. You may have a great time just walking around and talking but if you need an activity you will have a ball to toss around. Bring a picnic for dinner at sunset. If you go to the beach, it’s the same idea; walk, talk, throw a ball around. When it starts to get dark build a fire if they allow it. Bring hot dogs or some variation, and marshmallows. She may tell you that she won’t eat a hotdog, but you can probably persuade her to. Only once I have ever not been able to get a girl to eat a hotdog but she ate the shit out of some smores. After you eat, get close to her look at the stars, ocean, lake, whatever, and you possibly have a chance to get physical.

2nd and 3rd Date Ideas

After the first date, you should know the girl pretty well and if you have not broken the touch barrier either by holding hands, a hug, or a kiss, now is when you want to start thinking about it, else you are very close to falling into the friend zone. These dates will allow you those opportunities to get close, and make that contact you need.

River Walk, Park, or Flower Garden
Just as with a first date these places are great for second and third dates. It doesn't cost money. You can walk around and build sexual chemistry, and possibly get intimate. Walking around is a great way to hold her hand. It may sound simple and second grade but holding hands is always the first step to becoming intimate. If you are at the park, try and get her to take roller blades or something crazy like that. You don't want to do this on a first date, but on subsequent dates it can be good. By doing an activity like roller blading you are; having fun and standing out from the other guys she has dated, showing her you can take a risk by doing something like this, being original and creative. A little sweat is good because of the effect of pheromones and physical activity physiologically spawns sexual feeling, meaning it will help with getting to the intimate zone. However don't go all out and get all nasty and shit. If you stink, she won't want to get close to you, and if she perceives herself as sweating too much, she won't want to get close to you. It's a losing situation either way. If you do this in the afternoon you can pack a picnic dinner and relax afterwards.

Cook Her Dinner
I like to cook dinner for a woman around the third or fourth date, you can find our goto recipes here: Quick Date Dinners. If a girl makes it to the third or fourth date with me, that means I like her a lot and cooking for her is always a great date. First take her grocery shopping with you, but only buy things specifically for that night and take her home and cook. Make sure she is in the kitchen with you while you are preparing the dinner. Have a glass or two of wine while preparing, but make sure you have enough wine for a few glasses with dinner and afterwards. If that means two bottles of wine, make sure you have two. I keep a bottle of wine at the house all the time for this reason. When shopping buying two bottles of wine may give her the wrong impression, so plan ahead to only buy one and keep a suitable backup at home to bring out later. If you don't know anything about wine, just be safe and grab a red wine Pinot Noir for around $15. Cook something that takes a little time and that you have made at least one prior to this where the results turned out good. If you are unsure of the recipe, practice and let a buddy or your roommate judge. Watching you prepare dinner will be a giant turn on for her. After dinner you should be primed for any type of intimacy you want.

Pizza and Mini Golf
In my opinion, this is the best option for any date, whether it is your first date or your twentith. It’s the same concept as the rest. You have a fun activity there for you. Doing activities she did as a kid will be fun for her. When she is having fun you are building chemistry. Plus when you do activities like this you appear a little vulnerable, almost like you are letting down your guard. She will take notice of this and it will help her to let down her guard. You can get a competitive vibe going rasing the stakes on each hole so that she ends up owing you a back rub, a lap dance, or some kisses. Use your imagination.