Neuro Linguistic Programming
What is It?

Do you know anyone that you would describe as "good with people?" Someone whom everyone likes, is easy to talk to, is outgoing, and easily becomes the center of attention when introduced to a new group of people. Sure you do. We all know someone like that. Whether it be a friend, someone you work with, or someone you run into from time to time. On the flip side, we all know someone on the other end of the spectrum, a person no one really likes. Maybe it is someone at work that doesn't really get along with anyone; an outsider. It could be a person in your own group of friends. Someone that you just don't like and don’t know why; a person that rubs you the wrong way.

Now if I was to ask the first person, "What is it about you that everyone seems to like?" He would probably say, "I don’t know... I guess I've always just been good with people?" If I was to ask the latter, the person that no one seems to like, the same question, "What is it about you that everyone seems to dislike" He would say something like, "They just don’t," and would probably describe himself as shy or an introvert. The difference between the two, the reason one is well liked and the other isn't, is that they have differing skill sets when it comes to communication. These skill sets could have been developed through personal experiences, environmental surroundings, the way their parents raised them, any number of things. One of them has developed a good skill set in communicating with others and one is lacking. One thing they both have in common however, is that neither of them are aware why they have the skill set they do. In other words, the first person, the one that is charming and gets along with everyone, "has always been good with people." While the second person, the one that rubs everyone the wrong way, people "just don't" like him. Neither of them know why they are, or are not, communicating well with people.

I was just like this. I was always good at talking to and making a connection with people. I had a way with people that made them feel comfortable. If I could just get into a conversation with a girl I didn't know, I knew she would be hooked and at worst I would get her number. I knew this based on previous experience. I was just good with people, more specifically good with women. There was something about the way I talked to them, whether it be at work, school, people I had just met, long time friends, I was always able to make them feel comfortable with me. What I didn't know is why. I thought it was because I had a natural gift at interacting with people; something I was born with. It wasn't until I started doing a little research on NLP (neuro linguistic programming), that I realized it was because I was interacting with people on their level. We will get into that in more detail a little later.

For the purpose of this book, we are going to take a very small part of NLP, and apply it to interacting with women. More importantly, we are going to use it to build sexual chemistry on a subconscious level. We have referred to sexual chemistry a lot in this book. It is the number one factor in determining if you are going to have a relationship with the girl you are actively pusring, regardless of if that relationship is going to be a date, a long term thing, or a one night stand. But what is sexual chemistry? Sexual chemistry is having rapport with that person. It is creating a likeness between the two of you that will allow her to drop her guard and her panties. When you build sexual chemistry, or rapport, you are making that person (your target) feel comfortable with you in a way that will allow her to drop her walls of defense; to remove her mask. We are going to break it down, and give you a skill set to create an "instant bond" between you and your target, or with anyone for that matter. Think of it in terms of developing your skill set in communication. You may need to read the following chapters on the concepts of NLP a few times to get a handle on the process.