Yes / No Picking Up On Her Signals

I was seeing this one girl, and she had amazing tits. I had been out with her a few times and I started to notice something she did. She always sat with her hands together, almost like she was praying but her forearms were always perpendicular to her body resting on her legs or the table. I didn’t really think much of this, it was just something I noticed. Now this girl didn't wear reaveling shirts showing off her boobs, but she always had cleavage. We would be talking and my eyes would always drift down to her chest, and she picked up on that. That’s not entirely bad, but we will address that later. Finally, it dawned on me what she was doing. She was putting her tits out on display for me. She was presenting them to me, basically saying, here I am, take me. This was probably our third date, and sure enough that night I knew that I got my yes signal so I pushed the issue a little more and we ended up taking things to the next level. She had been giving me this yes signal ever since we met but it wasn’t until I picked up on it that I could use it to my advantage.

Throughout your interaction with a woman, she will be sending signals. We have already talked about some of these signals. The signals she sends with her eyes to tell you she is interested. The signal she sends with a smile to show interest. Some of these signals will be good and some will be bad. Let’s call them “yes” signals and “no” signals. “Yes” signals will be signals that you are sending to or receiving from a woman that say, “I want you, come get me, I'm interested in you, lets progress this forward, take me home, I want you to screw my brains out.” “No” signals will be Just the opposite. Signals that you don’t want to see and if you do you need to right the situation or skew the situation in your favor. No signals will be things that are saying, “I’m not interested, you just turned me off, you said the wrong thing.” Depending on how hard you want to work, you can over come all of these no signals, so don’t worry if you are getting no signals or zero signals at all in the beginning. We will discuss those techniques more in the next chapter. For now, just focus on learning the signals she is sending your way.

Body Language

We have already discussed some of the eye contact signals to look for. Now lets take a look at some of the other signals a woman will send using body language.

Lips
Next to the eyes, the second most visual signal comes from the mouth. Lips can say a lot of things without words. Lipstick is used by women to draw attention to their mouth and exaggerate the signals that are sent by them. Continually staring at the mouth is a sign that she wishes to kiss you.

Parted Lips
Lips that are slightly parted is the first stage in speaking, and means that the individual would like to talk to you. A lot of times, once I am engaged with a woman, I will look at her with my lips ever so slightly parted. For one it makes my lips look a little fuller, thus more appealing. I’m hoping subconsciously she will take this as a yes signal that I'm sending to her, that I want to kiss her. At the very least it draws her attention to my lips and gets her thinking about them; a kiss is logically the next place her mind goes.

Licking the Lips
Licking the lips is a deliberate signal that indicates desire. It is sexually enticing and used in foreplay or as a quick tease. Refer back to the section on eye contact and holding a gaze. Once eye contact is made, slightly narrow your eyes while holding her gaze. At the same time touch your tongue to your lips as to wet them. Again, don’t lick the hell out of your lips excessively. Just touch your tongue to your upper lip. It is a mannerism used to work on her sex subconscious. A woman will often do the same thing, wetting her lips while holding eye contact. This just further reinforces the fact that she is interested and you should be on your way over to her.

Smiling
Smiling indicates pleasure or approval. A full smile engages the whole face and involves the eyes. If only the lips are involved then the smile is most likely forced and they are trying to show their approval, but may actually feel differently toward the situation. Think of when you walk into an elevator and make eye contact with the person standing there. You force a smile and so do they, but in reality you are probably both a little uncomfortable and feel your space bubble is being invaded. However, when in a social setting you should treat a forced smile as an invite to approach.

Laughing
Laughter is a smile that shows even greater pleasure or approval. Women will laugh at men they like, so if they laugh at one of your lame jokes, they like you. Being funny is deemed as non threatening or harmless and it helps break down barriers.

The Face
The face contains thousands of tiny muscles used together to create hundreds of expressions and display any number of emotions. A woman’s hair does more for her then just enhance her beauty. She can use it as a barrier, draw your attention, or send signals your way. All it takes is a little flip of the hair.

Head Tilt
Tilting the head forty five degrees to the left or right indicates interest in you or what is being said at the time. When the head is tilted, the carotid artery on the side of the neck is exposed, it is a sign of submission and vulnerability.

Blushing
A red face may indicate that the target is hot as the blood comes to the surface to be cooled. In a social setting this is usually from embarrassment or emotional arousal. For example, when a woman becomes excited and energized her face and or neck will become red. Everyone will blush in various ways. Some people's neck goes red, with others it is mostly the cheeks, sometimes the whole face goes red. When a woman has an orgasm, her face goes flush. On a physiological level, it’s the same thing going on inside during sex to cause the red face as when in a social setting. Take this as a sign that she is interested.

Tossing the Hair
Tossing the head throws the hair backwards drawing attention to it. She is saying, “Hey, guys, wouldn't you like to stroke my gorgeous long, hair!'” Long hair that covers the eyes can be used as a barrier to help the target feel more comfortable in social situations. Pulling the hair back exposes the face, opening the doors for communication.

Stroking the Hair
Stroking the hair is a preening gesture, to reassure that everything is in place and they look their best to attract a potential mate. It is also a flirtatious signal that invites the person of attraction to play with their hair. Once you are engaged in conversation she will continue to preen saying to you, "Look at me, don’t you like me, look how beautiful I am." She does it as a way to make you interested in her.

Revealing the Neck
This is a key signal that includes many interpretations. A woman with long hair will reveal the neck by brushing her hair back. It is a preening gesture that allows the target to fix her hair and put it in place to look more attractive, as we discussed above. This action will draw attention to herself and her hair, inviting you to stroke it. Women use their hair as a barrier. By moving it out of the way she is inviting you to open communication with her. Lastly it is a submissive move. In the animal kingdom when two animals fight the weaker animal will submit defeat by lying down and giving their neck to their opponent. It is their way of saying, you are dominate over me.

Women are conscious of their appearance at all times. When they see an object of desire, they check themselves to present their best appearance. They wish to present themselves in the best light possible to attract a future mate. From constantly checking their appearance to sitting in a flattering position, a woman will do what it takes to attract your attention.

Primping
Women always want to look their best to attract the men they want. When women see a guy they find attractive they will primp themselves to make sure they look their best to catch his attention. Fixing her hair, checking her makeup, adjusting her clothing for a better fit, or sitting up in her seat are all signs of primping. You know the target is into you based on what she does when walking away from you. The two of you have hit it off and have been talking for thirty minutes or so. She excuses herself to use the restroom, go talk to her friends, whatever the reason, watch what she does as she gets up. If she is into you she will run her hands down the back of her clothing. The reason being is she wants to present the best appearance possible to you, even as she is walking away, she wants to show off that “ass” in the most attractive manner.

Seated Position
The most appealing sign a woman can give is to sit with one leg pressed on top of the other. This gesture makes the legs appear very well toned. A hand on the thigh completes the position and is definitely considered a call for attention. The body has a mind of its own. Many times our subconscious thoughts are seen in the actions of our body. Many examples of this are pointers. We use various body parts to show others the direction we wish to travel. This can be done with any part of the body. No matter how hard we try to hide our true intentions, the truth eventually comes out.

Pointers

One thing to look for is the direction in which a woman crosses her legs. The crossing of her legs toward you is a yes signal. She is interested, and more importantly she wants you to take things up a notch. If she crosses her legs toward you and makes and or holds contact with you, that’s even better.

Touching Herself
Touching a particular part on her body draws attention to herself and it makes the man think of doing the same. Touching her face, chest, or legs will direct your attention to the body part she believes is most flattering. This is a highly suggestive and flirtatious act. Stroking a particular part of the body is an even louder cry for your attention.

Pointing the Elbow
We tend to point at people and things in which we are interested in some way. The most obvious way is with the finger. One of the most subtle and subconscious of these is the elbow. The most common way this is done is by placing her hand on her hip, pointing her elbow in your direction.

Pointing the Feet
The targets feet show you the direction she wants to go. Look across the room and look for women that are pointing in your direction. They want to come talk to you. Look for a target who is talking to a guy whom you can tell she is not interested in. Rather than being mean, she will point her feet in the direction she wants to travel, away from the guy. This is her no signal saying, “I want to walk away from you, stop bothering me.”

Pointing the Pelvis
Along the same note is the direction of the hips. This has a greater significance than the feet and the two together are a sure sign that the target is open to your advance. To break it down, when a woman points her pelvis in your direction it means that her vagina is open to your advance. You see this a lot in couples. Watch as they hug. If they are intimate then their hips will be in line as though they were in the missionary position. A couple who has not had sex before, or is not ready for sex, will each tilt their hips to avoiding being in a direct line, or they will lean forward, keeping their hips away from the other, signaling they are not ready for sex.

Thrusting the Chest
Pushing the chest forward draws attention to it. Men are programmed to be aroused by the sight of breasts. When women push their chests forward they are inviting you to come take a closer look. High heels, which curves the spine to push out the chest and buttocks, accentuate this position. The target can also turn sideways or at forty-five degree angle, exaggerating the signal and displaying the curve of their breasts in a more flattering position. She may also position herself in a way to create more cleavage; another way to get your attention on her most flattering feature. Remember, this is all done by her subconsciously. These signals are programmed into a woman to attract a male and reproduce.

Thrusting the Hips
The hips contain the vagina and thrusting them forward is a provocative gesture. Pushing the hips forwards is difficult without losing balance, so this move is accomplished by leaning back against a wall or chair. This pushes out the breasts, drawing further attention to them.

Displays

A woman who is bold or is feeling confident will show the object of her desire exactly what he can have if he so chooses to make a move and come talk to her. She will display parts of her body in erotic and inciting fashion, putting on a personal show of display, saying “This could all be yours!”

Showing of the Wrist
When a woman exposes the thin skin on her wrist, she is saying, “I want to show you more.” This signal is much like that of revealing her neck.

Opening Her Legs
Women are raised to be ladylike and so they are taught to sit with their legs closed or crossed. When the target opens her legs to you, either deliberately or subconsciously, she exposes her vagina to you, sending an open invitation. When wearing a skirt, the target will go to great lengths to keep her legs closed to avoid public humiliation. There should be no question the type of signal the target is sending if she opens her legs to you while wearing a skirt.

Physical Signs

Women will drop subtle hints ninety percent of the time. When all else fails the last thing they can resort to other then directly telling you their feelings, is to make physical contact with you.

Accidental Touch
When you are talking to the target, one of the strongest indicators can be a simple touch. An accidental touch is a dead give away. In fact, an accidental touch is rarely a true accident. Many times, the target will resort to this if none of her other clues seem to be working. Once she begins touching you, you are home free. Make contact early, and make contact often. Touching breaks the personal zone barrier and opens her to more intimate touching such as, holding hands, hugging, kissing, and sex.

When talking about body language, there is sending signals and receiving signals. You are doing both. You are looking for signals, you are looking for the girl to hold eye contact longer, maybe a little smile, she will primp herself, play with her hair twirl it, she will play with her earring or necklace. She will play with her shirt in a way to make her breasts more appealing. She will have her arms uncrossed in a way to show off her breasts or slightly push her chest out. If you are sitting there talking to her she may fold her arms in a way to present more cleavage. She may cross her legs toward you, move closer to you, lean in toward you, a slight touch on the arm, all those things are yes signals that you are looking for.

When you are getting those signals you want to reciprocate them. Any time you reciprocate a signal you are moving to the next level of intimacy, basically building sexual chemistry. If the girl is leaning toward you, you want to lean towards her. If she touches your arm when saying something to you, girls love to do this, you want to find a way to touch her back. One thing I like to do is when in a bar or club, some place crowded where it's hard to hear, I lean in and talk into her ear and while doing this put my hand in the small of her back. By doing this you are doing a couple things. You are reciprocating that touch, but also you are breathing on her ear, an erogenous zone. This seems simple, and it is, but it does the job, and all the while you continue to build that sexual chemistry. Some people call this chicken pecking and discourage it but we call bullshit on that. If it is loud in a club there is nothing wrong by getting close to her to hear her. Also you don’t want to put her off by invading her comfort zone to early but at the same time you are breaking the proximity barrier.

Rejection Signals

Rejection is a fact of life, and something you must be comfortable with handling. By being able to recognize signals of rejection, the quicker we are able to respond to them and turn the attraction back to our favor. There comes a point where we must realize that no matter what we do, the target just isn’t attracted to us. This will happen from time to time, but you would much rather leave on your own terms, then have her turn her back to you completely and publicly humiliate you.

The Face
The face is on the front of the body and so we present the front when talking to women. If they do not wish to talk to us, they indicate their desire not to talk with us in several stages:

Averting the gaze, not making eye contact.
Turning the head.
Twisting the torso while keeping the feet planted.
Twisting the torso further, moving one foot in another direction.
Turning at an angle, so both feet are pointing in another direction.
Turning around completely so that their back is to us.

Each of these is an escalating signal, with turning their back to you as the maximum rejection. Even turning at a slight angle sends a clear message, “I do not wish to talk to you.” Turning fully around sends the loudest possible signal, short of her telling you, “Go away!” So how do we combat this? Well as you notice her slowly moving away, this should be a clear signal to change up your approach. If what you are currently doing is not working, it will continue to fail if you keep it up. Change the topic of your banter, go into a routine, or simply excuse yourself and regroup while you are still in good standing and try again at a later time.

Crossed Arms
Crossing the arms shows disagreement with you or what is being said at the time. It hides the chest, keeping her breasts hidden. It can also be used as a defensive barrier. By crossing the arms she is saying, “I will not let you in.” Before effectively communicating with the target you must get her to drop her defensive guard. It can be as simple as handing her something to hold on to, such as your drink while you fix your shirt or hold up your hand for a high five. You can make her self conscious about it. Tell her you read a study on body language that when a person crosses their arms they are putting up a defensive front. If all else fails go into the cold reading routine. Grab her hands and tell her you have a psychic intuition and would like to do a reading on her. It might be lame, but it opens her up and breaks the touch barrier. Plus it can put her in a better mood if you completely bomb your "psyhic reading."

Double Crossed Legs
A woman will sit with legs crossed ninety-five percent of the time, this is normal. What you want you to look out for is the double cross, where she crosses her legs once and again at her ankles. Just like the crossed arms it shows disagreement and an unwillingness to open up. To counteract this simply have her stand up. You can also ask her to show you her shoes or compliment her on them, Say, “I like your shoes, can I see them?” As she uncrosses her legs to show you her shoes, she opens her body up. When she puts her foot back down she will be in a more open position and will be more receptive towards your advances. If her legs are crossed in a direction away from you, that is also a no signal. She is either no longer interested or you have done something to put her off. If she is intrested she should be moving closer towards you, not further away.

Disinterested Conversation
This one is a little more difficult. If you are trying to engage a girl in conversation and she is not really giving you much to work with, either by providing one word answers, not engaging you with any questions of her own, or looking away or at her phone when she answers you, on the surface it may look like she is rejecting you. In our experience this is not always the case. Sometimes the person is just shy, or are nervous and haven't quite opened up to you yet. If you feel that you aren't making any progress, but some of the other things she has done with her body language is telling you that she is interested, we have found that the best option is to excuse yourself from her and regroup. Use this time to get another drink, meet back up with your friends, or maybe talk to another girl you had your eyes on or have previously talked to that night. Look back in her direction every once in a while. Do her eyes follow you wherever you go to make sure you haven't gotten away? Does she come find you maybe acting more engaged? Maybe she does not pay you any attention all. After some time has passed check back in later, see how she's doing. If she is still acting disinterested the second time around it will be up to you how hard you want to pursue this, but you now have a better understanding of where you stand, maybe. In most nights it is not unusual for Taylor or I to move around three or four different groups of women. It may take around the fourth or fifth time until the particular girl we are interested in starts to open up. There have been multiple occasions where I have checked in with a girl multiple times over the night. Our conversations would last no more than one minute and nothing I tried could get her to open up. Towards the end of the night she would come find me, grab me by the hand, and say, "You're coming home with me!" When asked later why she waited until the end of the night the typical answer would be, "I didn't know what to say around you." We've also gotten remarks how we had "certain reputations" and they were warned to avoid us, but later decided they wanted to see if the stories were true. It just goes to show you, you never know for sure what's going to happen, so keep your head up and your options open.